Best-of lists are tricky. At best, they’re meant to be interesting, fun, and sometimes even inspiring; at worst, they cause ill will or seem random and/or contrived. In the former realm, I was honored and humbled to learn last week that I was named to Babble.com’s list of 50 Best Mommy Bloggers. So why is this list different and worthy of mention? First, it's purely editorial (not vote-driven), and second, there is a thoughtful editorial spread about why each blogger was selected. In addition to overall rank, there also are rankings for a handful of breakout categories; clearly, time and thought were put into this process.
Anyhow, I learned about this accolade last week -- technically old news in the online sphere. However, I wanted to share this link in advance of the holidays (when the web slows down a tad) in case you are interested in discovering some fantastic new blogs. Happy reading, and if you visit The Pioneer Woman, look up and try her tres leches cake; I’ve made it twice already and it’s spectacular.
It seems I forgot to do this last month. Oops.
In December, I got a new job! At BlogHer! So I suspect most of my posts from now on will be showing you what I've been doing over there. However, as Cagey pointed out at Average Jane's cookie soiree, "You never link, then you just tell me about the post. I want to read it." This is a good point. I should link. I wrote about the Elf on the Shelf vs. Jesus this month. You might want to read it. (FYI: there is a little widget in my left sidebar that links to my work on BlogHer. But it doesn't catch everything else so I will keep doing this for myself mostly.)
In which I finally break into national print:
- Let's Get Together -- November 2009 issue of Scholastic Parent & Child
In which I judge others:
- Kid Suspended for Camping Utensils as Schools Are Forced to Parent -- I really hate it when schools have to take a hardline because they don't really know which kids are insane.
- Why Is Yelling a Parental Hot Button? -- I maintain that if I meant to yell? I meant to yell.
- Our Daughters' Hair Length: Let the Armchair Psychoanalysis Begin -- Why does everyone keep telling me how long my kid's hair should be or if she wears it up or down?
In which I judge myself:
- He Sees You When You're Sleeping: The Elf on the Shelf vs. Jesus -- I think the title pretty much sums it up.
- Has Swine Flu Created the Purell Period in History? -- I'm so ambivalent about magic goo.
In which I question society:
- Grandparents and Their Truckloads of Gifts -- Note to Ma and Beloved's mom: I'm not talking about you.
- Does Everybody Really Hate Mommy? -- Views from both sides of the stroller.
- When Does Bullying Stop and Start? -- I hope NEVER.
Community and citizen journalism projects at BlogHer:
- What the Heck is a Momspotter? -- I'm project editing a citizen journalism project at BlogHer, which I was doing before I got my new job. We're discussing parenting in a digital age. I think it's cool.
- We Want to See Your Holiday Hot Mess -- A photo contest at BlogHer where people post photos of their messy houses. Probably the most fun I've ever had at work. Go check out the entries.
Reviews:
- A is for Admission: The Insider's Guide to Getting into the Ivy League and Other Top Colleges -- not for the faint of heart
- The Double-Daring Book for Girls -- a must-have addition to The Daring Book for Girls
- Cat Ladies -- I loved it so much I made all my former co-workers watch it at the office.
- The Case for Make Believe: Saving Play in a Commercialized World -- solidified my resolve not to buy close-ended toys
- MedSafe -- hide your prescription drugs from your teens
- Great Discoveries: Explorations That Changed History -- Time did a great job with this entertaining coffee book.
- SnapGifts -- Get your giftcard in .02 seconds, shipped next day
Enjoy your holiday week!
I’m all about useful, meaningful, and green goods, and one of my favorite finds for the school-aged set (and their parents) comes from Citizenpip. Offering an awesomely comprehensive way to green lunchtime (no lead, BPA, PVC, or phthalates here), the soup to nuts kit includes an insulated lunch bag, stainless steel water bottle, insulated food jar, four food containers of varying sizes, a fork + spoon set, and a set of cloth napkins; simply mix and match the containers depending on your child’s lunch desires. Laurel adores the bright colors and all of the cute little containers of her Yum lunchbox, and I love the modern styling, functionality, and peace of mind knowing that I’m packing a safe, waste-free lunch every day.
Now, want to win a lunch kit from Citizenpip? Here’s how (entry closes Dec. 31):
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Today, Heather shares a fabulous idea that simplifies gift wrapping and makes the holidays accessible for pre-readers:
“I love Christmas and all that comes with it: the music, decorating, baking, shopping, and -- my favorite part -- watching the excitement and anticipation of my four children. The one thing I do not love is gift wrapping, possibly because I come from a family where gift wrapping is considered an art form. The busier my life gets, the more stressful I find this task. Though I love the look of artfully wrapped gifts, my practical side always wonders if it is worth spending so much time on gift wrap that will be ripped off in a few seconds.
As I was shopping at Target for wrapping paper -- envisioning Christmas morning and the frenzied dash towards gifts under the tree, with each child pleading with me to find a gift that is theirs (my triplets are 3-years-old and subsequently are pre-readers) -- I had a Eureka moment. I chose a solid colored wrapping paper for each child, in the same colors we assigned them when they were small (to separate their baby essentials). Emma is purple, Will is blue, Theo is green, and Adie is pink.
And in an effort to hold onto the 'art' while foregoing fancy bows, I have opted for small gifts to garnish the boxes. Match box cars and bouncy balls for the boys, rings and barrettes for Adie, and absurdly cute take-apart Iwako erasers (apparently the latest must have for 1st graders) for Emma.
The solid paper makes gift finding easier (I can even skip gift tags!) and the little gift toppers dress up the packages with minimal fuss. Santa will leave the kids a note (that my Emma can read to all) with instructions on how to find their color coded gifts, and also to thank them for the milk and cookies.”
Image credit: solid wrapping paper rolls from JAM paper and envelopes
Minding your intake during the holidays can be challenging for anyone, and even more so when you’re eating for two. Yes, you’re expected to consume extra calories (thought in general, it’s only about 300 calories, which isn’t a lot when you stack it up in terms of holiday cookies), but it’s important to make the calories count in a healthful way. This month, in my role as a March of Dimes mom, the discussion is around healthy eating and weight gain during pregnancy. Here are some of my key recommendations for healthful pregnancy habits; many are applicable to the non-pregnant crowd as well.
No two pregnant women are exactly alike. The topic of weight gain typically is a source of despair for pregnant women and I always like to remind my pregnant friends that no two pregnant women are exactly alike. Yes, there are general guidelines to keep in mind (see the March of Dimes's helpful guidelines for weight gain during pregnancy) but your history, body type, baby, etc., will be different than others. Cut yourself some slack and don’t compare yourself to others who are gaining less weight than you are. Keep checking in with your doctor, and so long as you are following a healthful trajectory, let nature run its course.
Fill up on fruits and veggies. It can be harder during the winter months to be excited about fruits and veggies, but these foods are key to a healthy person (pregnant or not). Before you hit the holiday party circuit snack on fruit so you’re not visiting the buffet table on an empty stomach. Or if you can’t stand eating raw veggies during the cold months, make soup with broth and loads of cut up veggies or make a vegetable-laden stir fry (even better, add tofu to the soup and/or stir fry). Another tip: to increase my green intake, I recently started adding a big handful of mesclun to my dinner plate every day. The leafy greens prevent overloading the plate with comfort food, and the mesclun serves well as a backdrop for a variety of foods (e.g., Brussels sprouts, risotto, fish, chicken tenders, etc.).
Carry healthful snacks at all times. I am definitely one of those supremely grouchy-when-hungry type people and when I was pregnant it was more important than ever to carry snacks with me at all times. I worked right up to delivery so I found it helpful on Sunday nights to cut up a big pile of vegetables (carrots, cucumbers, etc.) so it would be easy for me to pack a container of veggies for on-the-go snacking during the work week. I ate so many cucumbers during my pregnancy that my supervisor actually called me Kohcumber. I also usually had an apple in my bag at any given moment, and a bag of dried nuts and fruit. And water, always water.
Water, water, and more water. I just mentioned water, right? It’s really important (again, pregnant or not). I’m actually primarily a water person (I don’t drink soda and rarely drink juice) and I always toted a bottle with me when I was pregnant.
Enjoy avocados. People sometimes avoid avocados because of their fat content but it’s good fat. Plus, they’re high in fiber (which, um, you really need when you’re pregnant), as well as in vitamin K, potassium, folate, and vitamin B6. I started eating avocados regularly during pregnancy and while breastfeeding (considering it my “magic mama food”) and it has since remained a regular purchase when we shop. Jon, Laurel, and I all love to eat them, whether in sandwiches or smashed up as guacamole.
Don’t deprive yourself. Having grown up in a sweet deprived household, I can speak firsthand about how deprivation makes people even crazier than if you allow for moderation. I eat healthfully and did so when I was pregnant with Laurel, and I enjoyed treats in moderation. My lifesaver as I waddled around during my last trimester in the extreme heat of summer? Soft serve twist cones.
Go organic. Regular readers know I’m a longtime proponent of green living. I know a lot of folks turn towards organics when it’s time to introduce baby to solids, and I encourage organic eating while pregnant (and beyond) too. It’s good for you and for baby. You can read a bit about the organic movement via this post, and I also recommend reading this excellent CSA 101 post, which includes leads for Boston-area CSAs.
Find fitness. In addition to being mindful about what you're putting in your body, it's also important to find fitness; being fit will help you through your delivery. When I was pregnant with Laurel I kept things low impact but was able to stay strong and toned by walking everywhere and also swimming laps (all the way up to the day before Laurel was born!). Swimming was particularly excellent in the final trimester because it offered a welcome feeling of weightlessness and was very peaceful. However, since walking outside and getting in and out of a pool probably seem less appealing now that it's winter, I recommend some light cardio, stretching, and yoga at home. I'm a big fan of the free (well, included with cable) ExerciseTV programming On Demand; you just can't beat the convenience.
Image credit: FreeDigitalPhotos.net
The scene: Iowa City, 1993
The reason I was baking: Boredom
Unfortunate baking selection: Sugar cookies
Background: When I was in high school and in the grips of my eating disorder, I used to read cookbooks like romance novels. I went through a phase one Christmas in which I made some two dozen different kinds of Christmas cookies and gave them all away as gifts. Ma got mad at me because I was spending so much money on rarely used baking supplies and not even eating any of the cookies. I think it was during that period that I started viewing baking as an academic exercise best used for entertainment value. I really don't have much of a sweet tooth.
One rainy afternoon during the summer after my freshman year in college, I was in the apartment I shared with Amanda, Jenny and Steph. I was hanging out with my boyfriend at the time (I *think* -- I'm having trouble figuring out who it was, because I can picture the parking lot of this apartment complex but am picturing a boyfriend from several years later, and I know I didn't fry THAT many brain cells in college) when I decided I was bored. And when I'm bored, I like to hearken back to my childhood for entertainment options. Cookies! I decided. We should bake cookies.
Only we were in college. Without the Internet. (Imagine it!) We obviously didn't own any cookbooks, and we were too lazy to go somewhere to try to find a recipe. One of my roommates had some baking supplies. I tried to remember what goes in sugar cookies. Flour. Sugar. Baking ... something. I pulled out our popcorn bowl and started mixing stuff together. Some milk. Eggbeaters. (It was me -- we had no real eggs.) Nothing for flavoring? No problem! We have Crystal Light lemonade! We'll just use that. They'll be LEMON COOKIES!
We made the dough into cookie shapes. They were a little lumpy. Crystal Light doesn't mix very well. We couldn't remember how long to bake cookies, so we put them in for about 15 minutes and went outside for a smoke.
I was sort of excited. I mean really, how cool was I, remembering how to make cookies like that? How surprised my roommates were going to be!
When the cookies came out of the oven, they looked a little ... flat. I poked one, and it held the depression of my finger. Permanently. My boyfriend took one bite and spat it out, harking. Apparently we'd used baking powder instead of baking soda or vice versa, or maybe we even needed both. I have no idea. What I do know is that these cookies -- these cookies! -- could FLY. We took them outside to throw them off the balcony for the birds. They lofted like Frisbees, sailing across the parking lot. One even cleared the bushes forty feet away. Seriously. At the time, I expected a call from Boeing at any moment. My boyfriend deemed them a new breed of cookie: Lemonus Discuses.
We left them sitting outside in the rain, figuring they would dissolve. When we went outside a few hours later to get dinner, they were still there, impervious to the rain. Not even soft.
I had created indigestible, flying cookies. AWESOME.
I adore Gabrielle Blair; I first met her at the inaugural Disney mom bloggers mixer where we bonded over our shared passion for design, and I have since admired and enjoyed all of the artful ideas and stories she shares via her blog Design Mom, as well as the social media smartness that stems from her work as a co-founder of Kirtsy. Gabrielle projects such grace and generosity and kindness and creativity. And for the fifteenth installment of my Simplifying the Holidays guest blog series, I’m thrilled to share Gabrielle’s three super fast, surefire ways to create instant holiday mojo at home.
From Gabrielle:
At our house, we celebrate Christmas. And there are three things I do to make my home feel like Christmas almost instantly. They are not hard. They are not expensive. And if you do all three things right this minute, your house will feel like Christmas too.
1. Make the house smell delicious.
Take a small pot. Or a teapot. Fill it about halfway with water and heat it up like you're going to boil it. Add any combination of seasonal spices that you like. They can be crushed or whole. And you can leave some out if you prefer, or if your stash is low. You don't need more than 1/2 a teaspoon of any of them: cinnamon, nutmeg, allspice, ginger, cloves.
Once the pot has boiled or neared boiling, turn the heat down to a simmer and enjoy as your house fills with the most wonderful scent. Watch the water level and keep adding more water as needed. Every few days, when the spices aren't having the same impact they did at first, wash out the pot and start again.
If you want to have the yummy scent, plus something yummy to digest as well, heat up apple juice and the same spices instead.
2. Help the house sound wonderful.
Pull out your Christmas CDs. If you don't have any, it's easy to start a collection. Look up Christmas music on Amazon and see which albums get the best reviews. Start with one or two albums and add a new one each year. Or put together a mix collection via iTunes. If you're interested in a super-bargain, stop by places like Big Lots. They offer really inexpensive Christmas CDs from all sorts of obscure bands and orchestras -- maybe you'll find a hidden gem.
If starting a CD collection sounds like too much work, turn on your radio and let it seek till you hear some Christmas tunes. During the holidays, there are always 1 or 2 stations that dedicate their programming exclusively to Christmas music.
3. Get your twinkle on.
I'm a fan of tealights. They are big impact for little price. You can find a big bag of them in quantities of 50 or 100 at Ikea and Michael’s for $5 or less. Put them in inexpensive glass tealight holders. Or empty baby food jars. Or on little plates. And set them around the house. On the mantel. On the kitchen table. On a book shelf. Because they're inexpensive, I don't mind burning a dozen at a time -- grouped in 2's and 3's for bigger impact. They're typically unscented (which in my pregnant state, I much prefer) and they'll last all evening.
Doing these three things will take all of 10 minutes. I recommend making it a ritual at the end of each busy day. Set the spices to boil. Turn on the music. Light the candles. Just imagine yourself with a mug of spiced apple juice, enjoying the flicker and warmth of the tealights while Bing Crosby croons in the background. Your senses will be cared for — and you're sure to feel cheery right away.
Gabrielle Blair is a graphic designer and mother of five. She's the author of Design Mom and a founder of Kirtsy. She is not done with her Christmas shopping but her house smells delicious. You can follow Gabrielle on Twitter at @designmom.
Okay, here's the other reason I love my new job: The Holiday Hot Mess Photo Contest. It was birthed from a discussion of holiday visitors and OH THE COATS AND THE BOOTS AND THE PRESENTS AND THE TISSUE PAPER.
AND THE PACKING PEANUTS.
AND THE CARDBOARD.
AND THOSE LITTLE TWIST TIES.
I hate the little twist ties with the force of a thousand suns.
The only good part about all this crap is that it's funny! Who doesn't love a photo like this?
Just throw your coat anywhere.
Seriously, if you don't think that's funny, then your heart is too sizes too small.
Have I mentioned yet how much I love my new job?
OKAYILOVEMYNEWJOB.
Here's one reason why: I get to focus on issues that matter to women. On Friday, we found out that Health and Human Services Secretary Kathleen Sebelius is available at 8:30 a.m. Central (9:30 Eastern, 7:30 Mountain, 6:30 -- eek -- Pacific) (as in RIGHT NOW) to answer our questions about healthcare reform.
Over the weekend, we rushed to collect your questions for Sebelius, and after hearing us call out for questions on Twitter, Facebook and BlogHer, you responded.
And then D.C. became buried in a snowcalypse.
But the White House? They don't care about little things like snowstorms. Sec. Sebelius is still answering questions like the good Kansan she is. (Go, Kansas.) Listen to her healthcare reform live feed on BlogHer with BlogHer's Morra Aarons Mele now.
If BlogHer's stream doesn't work for you, you can also watch on the White House's Facebook page.